Great Show and discussion!

@ TheDarkness

Yes, brevity is the soul of wit lol.. But in this medium, I don't mind having an idea or topic expanded upon. Of course one should never belabor the points made during the discussion, but a podcast should be about getting "deeper" in there while keeping your audience entertained and informed. I think the guys do a good job of maintaining that standard.....

.........and they both sound cute as hell doing it! :-)

First and foremost you guys, I love the website and have mad respect for what you guys bring to the table. I do think however sometime when we label ourselves as "masculine" and feminine gay men puts us in a "Box". In my twenties I used to identify myself as a masculine gay man because it is apart of me (natural and not an act). But I also realized that when I was growing up feminine gay men were really put down and made to feel less than. As I got older though I realize that I am a man who happens to be gay. I don't label myself as a masculine gay man because people allot of time has an image of thuggism and dominance. I am 43 years old ( I am not a thug nor do I wanna be one). I am just a regular guy who likes men. I am not a queen but I am nto a thug wife beater wearing thug either.

As far as Marriage for gay men.. I love the idea. If you are in love why not. now I do believe that marriage isn't for everyone and I hope that fact gay men get married for the right reasons because divorce is a bitch.loI

Children: I understand that everyone doesn't have that yearning to be a father. I do want to be a dad. I was an only child from my mom anyway. I know there are kids out here who need a father/parent who don't fee like anyone loves them. I do want to adopt but with a partner. I was in the process of doing foster to adopt. I was under the thought that I could do it alone. but I realized that I still need to work on me. I don't want any of my baggage or low self esteem to over flow on my child or children.

Dating outside my race:. I am African American/Native American. I have always loved my black men, Latino and Caribbean men. But as of late, I have been drawn to certain white men. White men with swag. Or if they are Italian (they just gotta have a nice round juicy ass ..lol sorry)

Gym: I have been in Atlanta since 10/2011. I have had a membership with la Fitness and now I am at Just Fitness. I must say that at LA Fitness there are more Gay men walking around ( or men who are curious about other men. There are allot more men looking checking each other out (staring harder and more than usual.lol) But when I switched gyms, I noticed there are more straight men in the gym I am at now because like you said people are becoming more health conscious and want to live longer and better). As far as gay men being more body conscious, I believe that especially since AIDS came out in the 80s. gay men who look frail and skinny people tend to be like mmmm something is up. Gay men like straight women and some straight men love men with muscles. It is the whole fantasy of being with a hot guy and having hot sex.

Bare backing in porn : Lawd it does appear especially on Myvister.com there are allot of no condom porno clips and movies on there. I often wonder if the producers of these moves care about their porn actors. I don't see how in good conscious you will allow to put these people in danger of catching something from each other. I mean there are condoms people can wear and still have a hot sex scene. I don't get it.

Dating/ Relationships: I do think there needs to be book on how to date. I think we need to have a balance of obtaining companionship and hot passionate sex. In my 20s and 30s I have had plenty of one night stands and friends with benefits. But I never learned how to bond with men (gay or straight) without the sexual tension. I wish I knew how. now that I am 43 years old. (yes I am an old fart in the gay world..lol) I want more companionship, more substance.

Keep up the great work you guys. Much love and respect

BTW:

I don't buy the argument that we as Black Men should be open to dating outside of our race because the stable of Black Gay Men just isn't up to par.

Ideally speaking, no one should be closed minded about anything. But when have you heard a group of white men sitting around saying things like " I'm so sick an tired of being hurt by these White Boys. I'm gonna open my mind and start dating Blacks and Asians".
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PS: there were lots of topics I wanted to respond to as I listened to the podcast, but it would require paragraphs upon paragraphs to address them all, and no one wants to read all that shit..lol

I do not date outside of my race. I only date Black men.... PERIOD! I don't feel anything for other men if they are not Black. I don't feel the same type of sexual energies and strong passionate sexual attraction from other men that I get from Black men. Black men turn me on like no other men. I don't get an erection for any other man. I DON'T FEEL THEM AT ALL. I don't FEEL anything for latinos, puerto ricans, whites, "mexcans," chinese, japanese, orientals, filipinos... etc.. I just don't like them. If I had to date anything but Black - I WOULDN'T DATE. That's how deep it is with me. Some folks have preferences. And I prefer men who look just like me because I LIKE ME. I don't feel LESS THAN when I look in the mirror and see my image. I want to kiss the image I see. I want to make love to the image in the mirror. I'M STARTING WITH THE MAN IN THE MIRROR... I love ME first. All this other crap of being diverse is cool, just as long as it ain't in the BEDROOM. I'd commit suicide if there wasn't any Black men to choose from, or be celibate. SORRY, I CAN'T DO IT, AIN'T GONNA DO IT, WON'T DO IT.. AND I ain't apologizing for the way I FEEL!!!

Hey Ocky, what is "femacy?"

I think the topics should be expounded on and the number of topics cut down. I think 10 mins per topic is good. 5 mins is too short. You really just don't get a chance to "air it out" in 5 mins.

Overall I thought the show was what it was. I like the background music.

Ocky, now now... Bruh Bruh... I wasn't trying to do no such a thang... it's all luv here... I will be "quite" for a while now... back to my corner and stay there... I was only jokin'... wasn't trying to come off any kinda way to make you feel any kinda way... I said it in jest to elicit a laugh amongst usins' datz all...

Another thing, I love the fact you guys touched on religion vs faith and spirituality. I have been on this journey to "find myself" and one way is that I have been going to a weeknight church service. I find it hard trying to understand where I fit in as far as being born a Christian and feeling the way I do. Christianity and church has been a huge part of my life and I sometimes find it hard to separate those two things (or join both of them) because I am gay. Still tryna figure that part out...

One more thing... I love the camaraderie between you both. I love that two gay black men can come together for a greater cause and following their passions. I hope to find something similar to that as I grow older and more accepting of who I truly am.

Is it me or does Ocky try to stay away from using the word boyfriend? I have heard him say boo, baby, and partner but he seems to select his words very carefully and stay away from using the word "BOYFRIEND."

Is there a reason, or is it something that just "irks" you say? Just curious

I definitely enjoyed this.