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The Tale of the Te'o
Discreet City / Octavius Williams
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By no means is Discreet City a gossip website nor are we a minute by minute gay news source.  However the stranger than fiction story that is happening concerning Manti Te’o and the "hoax" girlfriend, immediately had my thoughts come to a logical conclusion.  My opinion and assumptions to this story is based on past experiences with men who are not secure (like I once was) with their sexuality;  especially when these men are athletes.
 
Yes I know how the saying goes “when you assume” but even if my assumptions are wrong; my opinion is still here to serve a valuable purpose.
 

Okay so here is the story and I will try my best to keep it short.
 
Notre Dame star football player, Heisman Trophy runner up, and potential 1st round NFL draft pick Manti Te'o, became the poster boy of pride and inspiration to the sports world and mainstream media due to playing through struggle and adversity.  

What was the struggle and adversity?  September 2012 Manti’s grandmother passed away and days later, his girlfriend (Lennay Kekua) in California died of leukemia.  The girlfriend had been in a serious car accident in California, and during her medical care for the car accident had been diagnosed with leukemia.

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For months this story with the details of Manti’s grief, determination and spirit where touted though out media outlets as a testament to Manti’s devout faith in his religion (he is a Mormon) and his commitment to his dead girlfriend that she informed him via text message “Babe, if anything happens to me, you promise that you'll stay there and you'll play and you'll honor me through the way you play.”

Ok the only problem with this is that the “girlfriend” never existed.  It has been reveled by sports website Deadspin that this whole story was supposedly a hoax that was played on Manti and his family.

How?  Well you see Manti never met his girlfriend in person.  They only spoke over the phone and via text messages and twitter.  The pictures online that exist of this girl belong to someone else and were stolen from a face book account.  Oh and by the way Manti’s father stated in an interview in October 2012 that the girlfriend would travel to Hawaii to visit Manti and spend time with their family.  Yeah but the thing is, there wasn’t a girlfriend. 

If you want to read the full details (it’s a lot of conflicting details) of the “hoax”, view them here.

So lets ask the obvious questions.

-How can you have a girlfriend who doesn’t exist?
-How did the father and family met a girl who doesn’t exist?
-Who was Manti talking to online, texting and talking to on the phone for hours?
-The relationship supposedly stated in 2009. At to no point did Manti and Lennay Skype or talk to each other on webcam?
-If this is a hoax, who are the hoaxers?


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Well the answer to the last question is the reason I am doing this post.  The supposed hoaxer is a former high school star quarterback turned religious musician named Ronaiah Tuiasosopo.

You see Ronaiah was friends with Manti.  Ronaiah comes from a football family and his father who is an assistant football coach at a high school is also a pastor of his own church.  Ronaiah is a singer not just within his father’s church but also on YouTube.

Ronaiah corresponded on Twitter with Manti and a tweet from Ronaiah’s deleted Twitter account stated they hung out “with his bro“ after a game in on a trip to the West Coast. Oh and Ronaiah had been in a car accident around the same time the made up girlfriend was also in a car accident.

All the online accounts for the girlfriend Lennay Kekua, were opened by Ronaiah.  All the pictures of the girlfriend were of course stolen.  

Manti made a public statement saying “This is incredibly embarrassing to talk about, but over an extended period of time, I developed an emotional relationship with a woman I met online.”

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A friend of Ronaiah Tuiasosopo has stated he was "80 percent sure" that Manti Te'o was "in on the hoax," and that the two perpetrated Lennay Kekua's death with publicity in mind. According to the friend, there were numerous photos of Ronaiah Tuiasosopo and Te'o together on Tuiasosopo's now-deleted Instagram account.

How did Manti Te’o’s father and family met a girl who didn’t exist? Why would a star athlete need a "online only" distant girlfriend he never met, while there are plenty of girls on his college campus?  This seems odd to me.

Now lets get to my assumption and hypothesis.  

Manti is a closeted homosexual who did not want his homosexual relationship to hinder his career.  His homosexuality would have also seemed hypocritical being that he as a devout Mormon who plays football for a Catholic University. 

His lover, Ronaiah Tuiasosopo comes from a football family and is active in his father’s Christian church.

Manti’s family assisted in the lie to help and protect their beloved son. Why else would his family lie about a girlfriend (and her family) that they didn’t meet because she never existed?

Ronaiah Tuiasosopo created all the online accounts to help facilitate the lie so Manti could always point to the stolen pictures of the beautiful girl.  A popular attractive star athlete would be asked the questions, “are you seeing someone?” “who is the lucky lady?”  Oh my girlfriend is lives in California and her is a picture.  How did this hoax fall a part?

Because Manti and Ronaiah broke up.  What better way to end the public pretend relationship by killing off the pretend girlfriend like a character in a soap opera?  

As I stated before, even if my assumptions are wrong; my opinion is still here to serve a valuable purpose.  That purpose is, we as masculine homosexual men have to understand that there is nothing wrong with our sexuality.  Living double or secretive lives that are propped up by lies and deceit will eventually catch up with you. The results may be far worse than if you would've just been honest in the first place.

I must say that I can understand and sympathize with Manti and Ronaiah situation.  

Because of our society, religious attitudes about homosexuality, the negative imagines and the stereotypes that many gays perpetuate; these men chose to hide, deflect and create an elaborate tale.

Just like Manti and Ronaiah, many of us are ashamed of our sexuality and in turn end up denying ourselves happiness and joy.  Simply because of what others may think of us.

At some point masculine homosexual men will need to be honest and stop hiding from ourselves.  This doesn’t mean you have to have a grand “coming out” proclamation.  It just means coming to terms with and accepting who you are and accepting there is absolutely nothing wrong with a man being sexually attracted to another man or a man falling in love with another man.

The internet is already started to speculate and form the same conclusions I have....why? Because many feel it is the only conclusion that fits or makes sense.

Let me know what you think.  Do you think I am way off with my conclusion and hypothesis?

 


Comments

01/17/2013 11:41pm

Well- if this is news worthy- especially dealing with a team like Notre Dame- it will be aired out over the media.
Now that you have come to tems about your sexuality- is a good thing-- but we all have our time voluntairly or not.
your statement--- It just means coming to terms with and accepting who you are and accepting there is absolutely nothing wrong with a man being sexually attracted to another man or a man falling in love with another man.--- is all well and good as you sit behind your keyboard and write. what seems to be an easy solution.
For most "masculine" men, coming out is not an easy thing.
I will say- the time is very near that we will see a star sports figure saying yea im gay so what. With these youngsters, real soon.

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Ocky
01/18/2013 4:05am

As I have stated before…a lot things are simple. They are hard or complicated because we choose to make them so. There a saying that life is 95% of what happens to you and 5% of how you deal with it (or something like that).

You don’t have to “come out” to anybody to be honest with yourself. Regardless if you are behind a keyboard or not.

I do think coming out can be difficult and even traumatic for a lot of people and I never suggested that anyone needs to “come out”, that’s not even my style.

However being honest with yourself…at night you have to go to sleep with who you are sexually as a real man. When you wake up you have to start the day realizing you are still sexually that same man. That’s all within.

Masculine or not, if you cant be sexually honest with yourself, coming out is the least of your life troubles.

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01/18/2013 10:30am

This story is picking up steam and the sharks are circuling. .

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Ruelon J
01/18/2013 10:30am

I don't think you're way off in your thinking. Also I appreciate the fact that you're not feeding into the gossip and merely stating the facts that do not add up. I too made up girlfriends, changed male names to female on my cell phone. I even purposefully took pictures with beautiful females to deflect attention.

If he is indeed gay, I can relate to the need to lie when you're uncomfortable with your sexuality. What I can’t relate to is being a celebrated athlete with a promising career who has a lot to loose being who you are. That is being gay in the homophobic atmosphere of locker rooms.

The thing that I find very odd is that an attractive athlete needs to participate in such a hoax. Even if he’s straight, I cannot fathom why he would need to do so. He would literally have women throwing themselves at him. Regardless of the outcome, I hope that he either breaks down barriers, or goes away quietly with this story.

I turned 40 and came out to family members in the last year. I cannot even believe I manufactured so many lies just to cover up who I truly was. I'm so glad that part of my life is over. I’m a masculine gay man of a certain age. I’ve earned the right to love who I choose. I refuse to spend my life continuing to make others comfortable. If Manti Te’O is in the closet, I hope he will find the same peace that I have.

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james tolbert
01/18/2013 10:37am

FINALLY!!! The most poignant part...."At some point masculine homosexual men will need to be honest and stop hiding from ourselves. This doesn’t mean you have to have a grand “coming out” proclamation. It just means coming to terms with and accepting who you are and accepting there is absolutely nothing wrong with a man being sexually attracted to another man or a man falling in love with another man.".....well said. thank you.

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Kyle
01/18/2013 4:58pm

To me, the fake girlfriend thing can only mean one thing = gay.
right now I have two friends in the closet and one thing they both have in common is having fake girlfriends they even have the nerve to try and fool me into thingking they are straight despite the fact that they both flirt with me and enjoy looking at half naked pictures of men with me. I just tell them that I not forcing them but whenever they feel they can tell me something important I will listen without judging. Te'o's story makes my Gaydar sound off

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Kyle
01/18/2013 5:10pm

To make sure I just watched an interview of him talkign about the fake girlfriend....If he's not gay he's crazy

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Rik
01/24/2013 12:50pm

I was also curious so, like you, watched a vid of Te'o, too -- see link below. Your conclusion and mine match perfectly, So I'd have to say you are very insightful! And all I can add is that if we're right then his situation is very sad, and I wish him all the best.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ao109a38uVY

Vaughn
01/25/2013 12:19pm

All due respect, by saying that, I feel as if you're trying to fish something out of them that they're not really ready to admit as yet. Friend or not, it's no one's business which gender a person is interested in romantically. They have no obligation to you to say if they're gay or not. Just as long as they are comfortable with themselves and acknoledge that within. They shouldn't lie to make themselves seem straight if they aren't. Makes them look stupid in the long run. Wish you and your freinds nothing but a blessed new year.

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Kyle
01/25/2013 5:28pm

But Vaughn thats my point, I can't stand to see men lie to make themselves seem straight especially when its my friends doing it around me, I just want them to respect me enough not to do that. Other than that I dont try to fish anything out of them until they are ready to admit it and I hope I'm the first one they come out to.

I HOPE ONE DAY ALL MASCULINE GAY/BI MEN CAN JUST REALIZE THAT THERE IS NOTHING UNHUMAN ABOUT BEING ATTRACTED TO ANOTHER MAN AND FALLING IN LOVE WITH HIM AND BE BRAVE ENOUGH TO BE COMFORTABLE OUT OF THE CLOSET. Have a good year my brothers.




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