Discreet City's Top 50 Quick Dating Tips for the New Year: Tips 26 - 50
Discreet City | Nick Delmacy
Since its only January there is technically still time to begin even more new starts and resolutions now that the 21st Century has officially entered its' teenage years. When it comes to dating, many of us need a firm kick in the ass to finally follow common sense advice to avoid more frustration and heartache. Even I'm guilty of falling into the same old traps and ignoring blatant Red Flags telling me that I'm wasting my time.
So to help us all in 2013, I've compiled the Top 50 Quick Dating Tips I could think of in regards to dating and relationships with men. Many of these tips are pretty obvious but sometimes we need a big, bold reminder of what we need to do in the future. Consider this your reference guide for what to do when you meet a new guy that's being inconsistent or not texting back fast enough. Feel free to add your own quick dating tips for fellow readers in the comments section!
Read Tips 26 - 50 of the Top 50 Quick Dating Tips for the New Year, In Just One Click.
Discreet City | Nick Delmacy
Since its only January there is technically still time to begin even more new starts and resolutions now that the 21st Century has officially entered its' teenage years. When it comes to dating, many of us need a firm kick in the ass to finally follow common sense advice to avoid more frustration and heartache. Even I'm guilty of falling into the same old traps and ignoring blatant Red Flags telling me that I'm wasting my time.
So to help us all in 2013, I've compiled the Top 50 Quick Dating Tips I could think of in regards to dating and relationships with men. Many of these tips are pretty obvious but sometimes we need a big, bold reminder of what we need to do in the future. Consider this your reference guide for what to do when you meet a new guy that's being inconsistent or not texting back fast enough. Feel free to add your own quick dating tips for fellow readers in the comments section!
Read Tips 26 - 50 of the Top 50 Quick Dating Tips for the New Year, In Just One Click.
26. If his ego won't let him call/text you first occasionally, his lost, Move On - Delete The Number.
Some guys like to play it cool, but the fact of the matter is if you play it TOO cool, you’re gonna lose. Taking initiative shows interest. If all of the effort is coming from your direction, that’s a clear sign that his interest level is extremely low. Focus your energy on someone that wants you as much as you want them.
Some guys like to play it cool, but the fact of the matter is if you play it TOO cool, you’re gonna lose. Taking initiative shows interest. If all of the effort is coming from your direction, that’s a clear sign that his interest level is extremely low. Focus your energy on someone that wants you as much as you want them.
27. If you tell him something personal about you and he forgets, that's a RED FLAG. He's not interested.
Even the most mundane details about a person’s life are extremely fascinating when they’re coming from someone you’re interested in. Sharing this information with a guy (especially in the beginning) and he forgets is a clear sign that he’s either juggling way too many men or he’s just not interested.
Even the most mundane details about a person’s life are extremely fascinating when they’re coming from someone you’re interested in. Sharing this information with a guy (especially in the beginning) and he forgets is a clear sign that he’s either juggling way too many men or he’s just not interested.
28. Actions speak loud as fuck. If he's saying one thing and doing another - MOVE ON - DELETE THE NUMBER
If he’s texting you how bad he wants to see you but never seems available when you call his bluff, he’s full of shit. This applies to anything else that contradicts his words. A person will never have to tell you they’re interested if they actually show it.
If he’s texting you how bad he wants to see you but never seems available when you call his bluff, he’s full of shit. This applies to anything else that contradicts his words. A person will never have to tell you they’re interested if they actually show it.
29. If he non-verbally tells you he's not interested, take him at his word and Move On - Delete The Number.
Body language says a lot. If when you go out, he barely makes eye contact or constantly checks his cell phone, this is him non-verbally telling you that you’re just a time-filler for him. You’re a better alternative than being alone for the night since the guy he REALLY wants doesn’t want him.
Body language says a lot. If when you go out, he barely makes eye contact or constantly checks his cell phone, this is him non-verbally telling you that you’re just a time-filler for him. You’re a better alternative than being alone for the night since the guy he REALLY wants doesn’t want him.
30. If you ask him a question about his life and he doesn't say, "What about you?" Delete his number. He's not interested.
This should be taught to all young gay men looking for love from day one. During the initial conversations where you both are getting to know each other, everything is pretty interesting…if you’re both into each other. Next time you’re out, ask him a question and see if he returns it, if not he doesn’t give a shit.
This should be taught to all young gay men looking for love from day one. During the initial conversations where you both are getting to know each other, everything is pretty interesting…if you’re both into each other. Next time you’re out, ask him a question and see if he returns it, if not he doesn’t give a shit.
31. You Text him and he doesn't text back in 8-10 hours... Delete the number.
This is factoring time for work hours, but 2-3 hours is usually a safe deletion period as well. In this day and age, most everyone has a smartphone and stays pretty close to it at all times. Not getting a response for hours typically means that he saw your text, but chose not to respond.
This is factoring time for work hours, but 2-3 hours is usually a safe deletion period as well. In this day and age, most everyone has a smartphone and stays pretty close to it at all times. Not getting a response for hours typically means that he saw your text, but chose not to respond.
32. Fast Texters make for better dating...If he's too busy to respond to a text, he'll just be squeezing a sliver of time of his life for you.
Slow texters have way too much going on in their lives. It takes all of 5-30 seconds to reply to a text…even if it’s just to say, “Hey, working. Will hit you back later.” If he’s got so many things going on at one time that he can’t text back quickly, what makes you think he’ll have time to date you?
Slow texters have way too much going on in their lives. It takes all of 5-30 seconds to reply to a text…even if it’s just to say, “Hey, working. Will hit you back later.” If he’s got so many things going on at one time that he can’t text back quickly, what makes you think he’ll have time to date you?
33. Texting is not a conversation.
Even given the rules of texting, this is not real conversation. There are nuances and spontaneity that arises from voice-to-voice flow of dialogue. Text messages are often short, vague and prone to misinterpretation.
Even given the rules of texting, this is not real conversation. There are nuances and spontaneity that arises from voice-to-voice flow of dialogue. Text messages are often short, vague and prone to misinterpretation.
34. If he can only text/call after 11pm, you're not a priority.
This usually means one of two things, his life is so hectic the only time he can squeeze you in is late at night OR he’s cheating on his boyfriend with you. Either way, you’re not one of the priorities in his life.
This usually means one of two things, his life is so hectic the only time he can squeeze you in is late at night OR he’s cheating on his boyfriend with you. Either way, you’re not one of the priorities in his life.
35. Don't try to fill dead space in phone conversations when getting to know a new guy, if he can't jump in - Move On
The Art of Conversation is not a skill that many people possess but we’re not talking rocket science here. If he’s just a plain bore, let him go. The dating process is the period where you get to know one another. A man that can’t hold up his end of a conversation makes that impossible.
The Art of Conversation is not a skill that many people possess but we’re not talking rocket science here. If he’s just a plain bore, let him go. The dating process is the period where you get to know one another. A man that can’t hold up his end of a conversation makes that impossible.
36. Don’t repeat yourself...or your mistakes.
Every past meet up, date and/or relationship is a lesson. Learn from these experiences and grow. What that also means is you shouldn’t repeat the past if it hasn’t worked for you. Why keep dating the same types of men if every one of them has led to the same result. If guys with lots of tattoos and no job always seem to let you down, STOP DATING THAT TYPE OF GUY!
Every past meet up, date and/or relationship is a lesson. Learn from these experiences and grow. What that also means is you shouldn’t repeat the past if it hasn’t worked for you. Why keep dating the same types of men if every one of them has led to the same result. If guys with lots of tattoos and no job always seem to let you down, STOP DATING THAT TYPE OF GUY!
37. If you tell him "I miss you" and he doesn't offer to link up, you've just admitted to being a fool. Delete the Number.
Deleting the number is the only sure way to resist the urge to make a fool of yourself, especially when drunk texting. The “I miss you” texts are just potential self-esteem busters because you run of the risk of him blowing you off after your declaration.
Deleting the number is the only sure way to resist the urge to make a fool of yourself, especially when drunk texting. The “I miss you” texts are just potential self-esteem busters because you run of the risk of him blowing you off after your declaration.
38. Jealousy is the real-life equivalent of "Spidey Sense"... Pay attention to that shit, might be true.
Every guy that I dated who was ALREADY in a relationship complained about their boyfriend’s excessive jealousy. What they failed to accept was that their lover’s suspicions were actually TRUE. Listen to your gut feelings, oftentimes they’re right on the money.
Every guy that I dated who was ALREADY in a relationship complained about their boyfriend’s excessive jealousy. What they failed to accept was that their lover’s suspicions were actually TRUE. Listen to your gut feelings, oftentimes they’re right on the money.
39. Be flexible with any flawed guy that at least shows interest and attention.
The main problems with dating arises when a guy becomes distant, busy or inaccessible. If the man is at least around and seems into you, all other problems can eventually be worked out.
The main problems with dating arises when a guy becomes distant, busy or inaccessible. If the man is at least around and seems into you, all other problems can eventually be worked out.
40. He can't be a Flirt, a Drinker AND be Loyal/Faithful...That shit never adds up.
The same way that sexy, muscled man you’re dating flirts with you while drunk is the same way he flirts with others when not around you. I’ve personally witnessed a flirtatious man supposedly in a relationship give in after a couple heavily poured drinks.
The same way that sexy, muscled man you’re dating flirts with you while drunk is the same way he flirts with others when not around you. I’ve personally witnessed a flirtatious man supposedly in a relationship give in after a couple heavily poured drinks.
41. When you show another man that you're thirsty, you give him all the power in the budding relationship.
Being on equal ground is important, especially in the beginning. It’s more interesting if each person is somewhat a challenge to acquire. It’s important to show interest, but if you appear to be ready to pick out drapes for your hypothetical home together, that could scare him off.
Being on equal ground is important, especially in the beginning. It’s more interesting if each person is somewhat a challenge to acquire. It’s important to show interest, but if you appear to be ready to pick out drapes for your hypothetical home together, that could scare him off.
42. If he texts you, "I miss you" that means the person he tried to replace you with dumped him so he's digging for old scraps.
Play this any way you choose but just know what you’re getting yourself into. You hold the power, either way. I’ve been on both sides of this and it’s definitely better to be on the receiving end of one of these texts than on the giving.
Play this any way you choose but just know what you’re getting yourself into. You hold the power, either way. I’ve been on both sides of this and it’s definitely better to be on the receiving end of one of these texts than on the giving.
43. If he just broke up with his boyfriend less than 5 weeks ago...Bet money they'll be back together soon. Move On.
This is the definition of a Rebound Situation. I can see if it had been six months or even a year. But a month or less later, those feelings for his EX haven’t been shut off just yet. If you’re okay with the occasional cancelled date and ignored text message from him due to him being off and on with his recent "Ex", then go for it!
This is the definition of a Rebound Situation. I can see if it had been six months or even a year. But a month or less later, those feelings for his EX haven’t been shut off just yet. If you’re okay with the occasional cancelled date and ignored text message from him due to him being off and on with his recent "Ex", then go for it!
44. Never try to keep someone who doesn't want to keep you.
With 7 billion people in the world, why fight to stay with someone that constantly demonstrates that he’d rather be with someone else or alone? Speaking from experience, I’ve personally wasted precious months of my life on men that, in hindsight, saw me just as a low-priority "one of many."
With 7 billion people in the world, why fight to stay with someone that constantly demonstrates that he’d rather be with someone else or alone? Speaking from experience, I’ve personally wasted precious months of my life on men that, in hindsight, saw me just as a low-priority "one of many."
45. EVERY relationship has an end...just enjoy it while it lasts and have no regrets.
Even the relationships that last 50 years end because someone will eventually die in the long run. I say that to say: Look at every encounter, even the negative ones, as a lesson for the next. Don’t mourn the loss of the person, celebrate the good memories you both share together.
Even the relationships that last 50 years end because someone will eventually die in the long run. I say that to say: Look at every encounter, even the negative ones, as a lesson for the next. Don’t mourn the loss of the person, celebrate the good memories you both share together.
46. Cutting him off is the ONLY way to guarantee no more second, third, forth chances.
When he tells you a CLASSIC GAY LIE, the urge is to believe him…especially if he is attractive or financially stable or great to talk to...Deleting the number from your phone and cutting him off is the only sure-fire way to resist urge to fall for more bullshit.
When he tells you a CLASSIC GAY LIE, the urge is to believe him…especially if he is attractive or financially stable or great to talk to...Deleting the number from your phone and cutting him off is the only sure-fire way to resist urge to fall for more bullshit.
47. Don’t let Ex Relationships mess up Future Relationships.
Everyone has to deal with the dating game bullshit eventually. Most of us have fallen victim to the gay sociopaths and game players of the world at one point or another. The key thing is to not let those experiences cause you to assume that every other situation will have the same result. In my book, everyone starts off with good credit. It’s on them to keep their credit score high.
Everyone has to deal with the dating game bullshit eventually. Most of us have fallen victim to the gay sociopaths and game players of the world at one point or another. The key thing is to not let those experiences cause you to assume that every other situation will have the same result. In my book, everyone starts off with good credit. It’s on them to keep their credit score high.
48. Long Distance Relationships are Pen Pals with Sexting.
Unless one person is in the Military, gay long distance relationships rarely work out. True they may talk and text every day, but that alone does not make a relationship. If you’re that desperate to exchange mail with someone, there are plenty of fit men in prison that would love to hear from you.
Unless one person is in the Military, gay long distance relationships rarely work out. True they may talk and text every day, but that alone does not make a relationship. If you’re that desperate to exchange mail with someone, there are plenty of fit men in prison that would love to hear from you.
49. Body full of costly tattoos but he's ALWAYS crying broke, phone getting cut off, etc...MOVE ON - DELETE THE NUMBER.
This STILL happens to one sexy, tattoo-filled light skin man that I know yet he STILL gets more elaborate and costly tattoos. He’s showing the world where his priorities are. True that a tattoo is more permanent than a temporary phone bill, but being able to pay your bills on time demonstrates responsibility, a key quality to have for any potential mate.
This STILL happens to one sexy, tattoo-filled light skin man that I know yet he STILL gets more elaborate and costly tattoos. He’s showing the world where his priorities are. True that a tattoo is more permanent than a temporary phone bill, but being able to pay your bills on time demonstrates responsibility, a key quality to have for any potential mate.
50. Young Gay men are rarely in relationships where mutual love was involved. In hindsight, it was all lust.
Many young gay men don’t know the difference between Love and Lust. Even I’ve had my moments where I confused the desire to be with a man for Love instead of what it really was: The Strong desire to have sex. If Love is what you think is causing you hesitation from leaving a bad relationship, consider the possibility that it may just be the sex.
Many young gay men don’t know the difference between Love and Lust. Even I’ve had my moments where I confused the desire to be with a man for Love instead of what it really was: The Strong desire to have sex. If Love is what you think is causing you hesitation from leaving a bad relationship, consider the possibility that it may just be the sex.
