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The Gay News Blog Towleroad has recently published a comprehensive list of The 50 Most Powerful Coming Outs of 2012. Many of the individuals listed, we had never heard of so much props goes out the their team for putting in the time and research.

The fact that they could even find 50 notable names to fill the list was initially surprising but maybe its a sign of the changing times. Gay is becoming more the norm in our society (although we still have a long way to go). Next year, they may have to increase the list to 100. Wouldn't that be something.

Please visit their site for the full list, but in the meantime check out the stand out Men of Color on their list below.

See our favorites from the list, In Just One Click.


#46. Shaun T
"It was a year of contradictions for fitness guru Shaun T. Failed president candidate Paul Ryan, a Congressman with a staunchly anti-gay record, credited Shaun's "Insanity" workout regimen for his chiseled physique just before Shaun T. announced that he had married partner Scott Blokker. Both were good news for Shaun T, but one has to wonder what Ryan had to say about the news." - Towleroad




#29. Frank Ocean

"Musician and producer Frank Ocean has remained purposely mum about his sexuality, preferring to let his sensational debut solo, channel ORANGE, do the talking.

"People should pay attention to that in the letter: I didn’t need to label it for it to have impact. Because people realize everything that I say is so relatable, because when you’re talking about romantic love, both sides in all scenarios feel the same shit," he told GQ in November, four months after coming out in an open letter.

Some have criticized the Grammy-nominated music maker for his reticence to adopt labels, but Ocean's quiet pride matches the tectonic though understated shift he produced in the hip-hop music community, a genre where homophobic often thrives. Though there were some haters, aural idols from Snoop Dogg to Beyonce to Dr. Dre celebrated Ocean's honesty, and fans did too." - Towleroad



#17. Sherman Hemsley

"Sherman Hemsley, the actor famous for his role as George Jefferson on All in the Family and The Jeffersons, never came out in life. He was a quiet, private man and most of the public never would have known he was gay save for a dispute over his will that involved a "male companion," Kenny Johnston.

But even after speculation began swirling, only a few people would speak the truth, like Michael Musto, who ran a post at the Village Voice, "Sherman Hemsley Was A Gay! Deal With It!"" - Towleroad



#12. Josh Dixon

"Josh Dixon just missed qualifying for the United States' Olympic Men's gymnastics team, but he totally landed his coming out, reported by Outsports just before trials.

"If anything, the only homophobia he has encountered has been from within himself. He acknowledges he once felt internal pressure about being a gay man in what some label the “gay sport” of gymnastics. He didn’t want to fall into a stereotype," Cyd Zeigler Jr. wrote." - Towleroad



#11. Wade Davis

""You just want to be one of the guys, and you don't want to lose that sense of family," former NFL player Wade Davis said about staying in the closet during his time on the field.

His career-ending injuries, he recalled, were something of a blessing. "There was a part of me that was a little relieved because, when I knew football was over, my life would begin. I had this football life, but I didn't have another life away from that. Most of the guys had a family and a wife, but I had football and nothing else."

Since coming out in June, Davis worked as an LGBT surrogate for President Obama's reelection campaign and joined GLSEN's sport advisory board." - Towleroad



#10. Orlando Cruz

Professional boxer Orlando Cruz helped KO homophobia in the ring when he came out in early October. "I've been fighting for more than 24 years and as I continue my ascendant career, I want to be true to myself," the featherweight fighter told a reporter.

Later, speaking with HBO, Cruz remarked, "I'm very, very happy. I'm free." He's also a champ: the 31-year old won his first fight after coming out, but was more pleased with all the support he received from the cheering crowd: I was very happy that they respect me. That’s what I want — them to see me as a boxer, as an athlete and as a man in every sense of the word… That was my moment, my opportunity, my event… And I won." - Towleroad

 


Comments

COSHAMO
12/26/2012 1:55am

I want to come out too, but people will not let me do it comfortably. It's been a very hard journey for me. You wouldn't believe the shit I go through because people do not want me to be gay. Only if I told you would you not believe me. But it's all true. I even thought about writing a book about it. I have been forced in the closet time after time after time. Even today I will never be accepted "out" unless I fight to open my closet door. I am jealous of most people who are out. I am the only man who is not allowed to come out. It's ugly, real real ugly. And I hate it. If i could come out I could probably be in love with the man I want to be with. Many good looking men will sleep with me behind closed doors but they will kill themselves before they come out the closet and they have told me this. Sad for me and and sad for them.

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MrRotten
12/26/2012 10:43am

Brotha coming out is something you have to deal with on your own terms. There are many factors that total why we choose to stay in the closet or disclose who we are to people. My coming out was a gradual process where I told two of my closest friends first, then I told a few more close friends. Eventually, as you tell more people (and be selective in who you tell please) it becomes easier to do and easier to accept.
This is my story though so I'm not expecting you to follow the same path. Just know that it's all about how comfortable you are with who you are and with what you think others need to know.

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Ocky
12/26/2012 3:44pm

COSHAMO; Let’s play “the what if” game for a second…

Someone you slept with tells everybody you know they slept with you. Outing themselves and you in the process.

-What is the worst that would happen?
-Would your “quality” of life be better in the long run?

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Craig
12/28/2012 5:55pm

Although I'm glad people in the position of celebrity feel they can or need to come out, or are being outed, the problem is that the everyday man that comes out isn't going to have media praising them for they deem is a courageous accomplishment. True in some areas i.e. american sports it maybe but it's the everyday man that's going to have to represent being gay as just another fact of life.

COSHAMO......I feel for you, coming out isn't always easy. Reading between the lines of what you said it sounds like you care more about what people think about you than how you feel about yourself and for your own happiness. You yourself said "Even today I will never be accepted "out" unless I fight to open my closet door." so the question is "Why aren't you fighting for your own self happiness?" Stay strong and I hope you find the strength to kick open your closet door, having your own self worth and happiness is more important than what others may think of you, family or friend.

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Coshamo
12/29/2012 3:22am

It is really a very complicated and complex situation for me. First, I am not in the stereotypical line of employment that you will find "most" gays. Second, my looks seem to always attract people that I don't want to be bothered with, including females. It's like I feel like I have to say, "get a clue, I don't want you," because I am pursued relentlessly by people who cannot take "NO" for an answer. I try not to be rude, and I never outright tell anyone that, but I FEEL like DAMN, LEAVE ME THE FUCK ALONE, but I can't say it because I know it will hurt someone or somebody will feel slighted, scorned, or offended. I so want to say this sometime, but keeping things professional and cordial is very challenging. People try to pry in my life and find out who I am sleeping with, or who I am interested in. I have a fascinating life, but I resent people always prying, or trying to be the "one" in my life, or get in my bed. I be like/feel like, "stop already, you just don't get it do you?" There's this guy at public institution who likes me a lot and I like him, but he is in a serious relationship w/a female. I decided that I don't like him anymore even though he is pursuing me, and giving me all of the signs. I just don't want to be bothered with sharing anyone. Fuck that. Those days are over. I need to be in a relationship with a real man, who is my man only. I will not be sharing a man, and KNOW that I am sharing a man, with anyone. And I don't want a damn hookup either, because that comes with drama. Plus I'm very intelligent, and people resent it. I have many positives that SHINE and people don't like it if they feel rejected by me in any way. I have to play politics all day. I resent it. Other people don't have to meet the demands put on me. Most have it easy compared to me. Only because of he resources, the swag, and the trinkets... I am not bragging... life is just harder for me to COME OUT!!! And do it comfortably. It'll be like the world turning upside down for me. Seriously.

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Craig
12/30/2012 4:56am

Going by what you have said about yourself I've come to the conclusion you don't want to move out of the space your in and that you like the attention you're getting, if you really wanted things to change you'd tell those persons prying into your business to back the hell off and be honest with them and tell them your not interested. Your in no better or worse position than any other gay man closeted or out, only when you get tired of the so-called situation you're in will things change until then don't complain about and deal with it, when you're ready to move on only then will things then change.

jmafia
01/02/2013 8:59am

welp!

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02/20/2013 10:50pm

Interesting article- but the comments seem to be focused on COSHAMO. There is no need to play Dr. Phil here. They guy has explained his situation. Timing is everything. Of course we've all had different experiences. I wouldn't wish my coming out experiences on anybody. Being secretive and shit blow up like massive blow up- but i lived thru it.
I think every one of us would have an interesting book about our life experiences.
One thing for sure if you live long enough- good looking well to do men with all the trinkets and "swag" as the young folks say wake up one morning and they are - 50 years + old, aging, perhaps not as appealing.
Whole foods, gyms, facials, pedicures and all sech things will NOT stop the aging process.
Personally, I have NO regrets. My career is done- and im enjoying life, best I can.
Closet, DL, Out or whatever,,, Enjoy Life.
ps.--- Always an intersting convo- even if I am late on this one.

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