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Sylvia A. Harvey, a journalist for Newsone has recently completed a short yet interesting documentary that explores the phenomena of unrestrained Male intimacy in Sports. She poses the general question as follows:

"In the Black community, men who express even a passing, friendly physical affection toward each other are often subject to ridicule and homophobic attacks.

But on the basketball court, the sight of men kissing, hugging and patting each others’ backsides scarcely draws a comment.

Why is that?
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This is a very good question indeed. Basic physical intimacy on the court is generally accepted while that same kind of physical touching in everyday life is shunned. It's worth noting that this seems to primarily be the case in the United States since men in many other countries have no problem with hugs, holding hands or kissing each other on the cheek (in many places its offensive if you DON'T do this).

See the short-documentary "Out of Bounds", In Just One Click.

The documentary features what appears to be a Skype interview with openly Gay former NBA player Don Amaechi who we've previously spoken about here. He adds poignant commentary to an otherwise basic recap of what we already know about male masculinity and intimacy.

Nonetheless, the short video brings up interesting conversation starters for several topics that we've been discussing for the last 10 months here at Discreet City. Examples include: What really is Out of Bounds when it comes to American men being physically intimate in public? Are the "No Homo" and "Pause" terms justified in some cases? Will our society ever evolve to the point of matching the intimacy seen amongst men in other countries?

"OUT OF BOUNDS" DOCUMENTARY

- Nick D

 


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Blacqlove
08/01/2012 10:42pm

I found this documentary very interesting. I remembver as I was growing up my dad taught me not to cry its a sign of weakness. I also remember thst my father never told me he loved me or hugged me. I do find it interesting that every time you turn around Black Masculinity is under fire. In other cultures (latino) males embrace each other and show love towards one another without someone trying to question their man hood. I am just so sick and tired of being underfire and under the microscope.

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Black Pegasus
08/02/2012 9:57pm



This is something I never really thought about. I just know it turns me on when I see those public displays of intimacy by those "hyper masculine" fit athletic men. Having said that, I can now recognize that we as Black Males are really fucked up in the head. It literally takes years to "de-program" our minds from what was taught to us versus what we naturally feel as Gay and Heterosexual Men.

@Blacqlove = you're right! soccer teams in our countries (mainly Latin) embrace each other regularly.

~BP~

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hmm
08/03/2012 4:40am

black males are fucked up in the head? thats pretty harsh to say. sounds like something a racist white would say smh

Black Pegasus
08/03/2012 1:42pm

@hmm

If your're going to quote me, do yourself the favor of quoting me correctly. That way, you won't look like a jackass.

My comment included the word "we"...Meaning I included "myself" in the "opinion" expressed on the documentary/article. "We" as Black Males ARE indeed "programmed" somewhat differently from our White counterparts.We have a different way of implementing masculinity onto our youth and to an extent - ourselves. Now if that means "fucked up in the head", then so be it...

~BP~

08/02/2012 12:54pm

Dope docufilm, definitely worth watching.

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hmm
08/09/2012 5:30am

@black pegasus you know what i meant dumbass cant you comprehend? lol i thought youre supposed to be smart!? having a different way of implementing masculinity doesnt makes us programmed or "fucked up in the head" as you called it, every culture and race is different.

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Ruelon J
08/04/2012 9:26am

@Black Pegasus.. Most of us understood what you meant and I agree.

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Will
08/04/2012 12:01pm

Great documentary film. We definitely have been socialized to treat any sort of physical contact with other men this way. It's going to take a lot of effort to try to change that concept.

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K.Kuba Sion A. Bennu
08/10/2012 9:24am

What does it really matter who/m you or anyone else is in Love/Like with, in the long run physically and metaphysically (spiritually) speaking, being Happy is the "Absolute" most important thing that I feel is truly significant in this World, if your not Happy then you will pass it on to others (if they allow you too) that is how negativity (see; low vibratory) people feed...Learn 2 Luv Yourself... by Singer Kim English. Themetaphy@Youtube.com

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02/19/2013 6:56pm

brilliant video. finally talking some truth.

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