I'll start off by saying that I've always had a little crush on 40-year-old actor Kent Faulcon. He's not a star by any means or even really recognizable for that matter. He's just one of those working class actors that you see in random forgettable roles on random forgettable TV shows and movies.
But every time he popped up on my screen my first thoughts were "Yo, who's that dude?" Then I'd frantically check IMDB to find out it was him, yet again. So I wasn't surprised to learn that c̶l̶o̶s̶e̶t̶e̶d̶ ̶g̶a̶y̶ filmmaker Tyler Perry chose Kent to be in the cast of his new TBS series, "For Better or Worse." I may not be a fan of Mr. Perry's films but I have to admit that he has excellent taste in black men 35-and-up.
 STRANGE FRUIT (2004)My man-crush for Kent Faulcon was magnified when I saw an indie film produced in 2004 called "Strange Fruit". Here Kent holds down the lead role for once and portrays William Boyals, a masculine openly gay attorney living in New York City, who travels back home to Louisiana once he learns that an also-gay childhood friend has been lynched outside of a gay bar. Just from that last sentence alone you know I was intrigued to see this film. That description is almost like the plotline for a John Grisham novel. Well, a gay-themed one at least. So I give Caucasian gay director Kyle Schickner a lot of credit just for the attempt to create a gay mystery/thriller that tackles both homophobia and racism. Also, according to the Wikipedia Page for the film, Schickner turned down a $6 million budget when the studio demanded that the lead character could not be both black and gay. So instead he made the film independently for only $250,000. While admirable, this leads directly to my problems with the film. The low budget is distractingly evident throughout. From poor lighting to poor acting, every scene feels thrown together like the clean-up job you do in your home right before an unexpected "hook-up" shows up at the door. See video clips of "Strange Fruit", After The Crossover.
This post is for our younger readers out there.
“Damn” I thought, when I read the article about a teenager from the “It Gets Better” campaign who recently committed suicide due to being bullied at school because he was gay. The bullies are still here walking amongst us, living their life but this 14 year old kid is dead.
I think the “It Gets Better” campaign is a good idea but only goes so far. As a person who was bullied in middle and high school; I know the effects bullying can have on one’s psyche and self esteem.
For me it led to constantly reminding myself that every time I had a homosexual thought; I was an abomination, a sinner and that I was going to hell. The constant feeling like something was wrong with me, just because of my sexuality. This was a lot to bear and led me to suffer deep depression and often contemplate suicide.
It did get better. Back then I didn't have the life experience to understand high school was only going to be a small minuscule portion of my life. It was the only life I had known. But let’s be real, high school is not worth you taking your own life.
Do you want a long term relationship?
Some tips and advance from Discreet City’s relationship coach, Octavius.
Now this post applies to those of you may be seeking a long term loving relationship…not those who are happily single. I know I could write a book on this subject, but I will try to keep it short for this post.
We all know so many masculine homosexual men who are not in a relationship that want to be in one, but feel they just cannot find the right masculine man to spend their personal time with. They have all sorts of reason as to why they can’t find a worthy partner.
For some it’s age restrictions, too soft acting or not masculine enough, they have roommates, doesn’t have a job, doesn’t show affection, too immature, too many lies and games, not secure with themselves, too fat, too skinny, one leg shorter than the other, LOL. You name it, we all have heard it.
Some may be valid reasons but others may just be excuses. Now I know we all have our standards and ideas of what we are looking for in a mate. But can you look internally at yourself and see if you have the same standards and ideas that you want in your potential partner?
Well the much anticipated UFC fight between Jon “Bones” Jones and Rampage Jackson ended with Rampage getting a beat down. I must admit…I still got mad love for Rampage Jackson. The fight this past Saturday at the Pepsi Center in Denver, Colorado displayed how Jon Jones may be a dominate force in UFC for years to come. Dude has an armory of weapons at his disposal and he displayed them in beating Rampage Jackson’s ass. Hey but Rampage Jackson is still sexy right?
The bad blood ended with Jon Jones planting a kiss on the cheek of Quinton "Rampage" Jackson after the fight.
That was after Jones punished him so bad that Jackson needed stitches to close a wound above his right eye. It's simply the way respect is earned in the octagon. Jones defended his light heavyweight title by putting Jackson in a choke hold and forcing the veteran to tap out Saturday night at UFC 135.
The 24-year Jones relied on his quickness and long reach to get inside on Jackson and inflict damage. In the fourth round, Jones put a bleeding Jackson in a rear naked choke hold and Jackson signaled he was done. It was the first time Jackson has tapped out in his UFC career.
Yes masculine gay men love cars and this Cadillac concept is HOT LIKE FIRE! Cadillac introduces the Ciel concept, an open-air grand-touring car. The Ciel – pronounced “C-L,” the French translation for sky – is a four-seat convertible powered by a twin-turbocharged version of the 3.6-liter Direct Injection V-6 engine, paired with a hybrid system using lithium-ion battery technology. Below is an excerpt describing the Ciel from yahoo autos. Without saying "retro," General Motors chief designer Ed Welburn described the Ciel's “hint of a fin.” The striking show car touches on its heritage while providing a vision of where Cadillac design might be headed in the near future. GM claims the open-top four-seater could be powered by a twin-turbocharged version of the company's "3.6-liter direct injection V-6 engine, paired with a hybrid system using lithium-ion battery technology. Long the leader of the luxury market, Cadillac sales now lag behind overseas rivals like BMW, Lexus, and Mercedes-Benz. But Cadillac has regained ground on competitors in recent years with a renewed focus on distinctive design. Confident there’s an opportunity for growth, GM management has given Caddy the green light to add a variety of new models, including the ELR plug-in hybrid, approved just this week, as well as the small Cadillac ATS and larger XTS. (more images click on "read more")
We're going to try not to bombard you with too many posts about black gay films but with so few out there, we have an urge to at least make you aware of some of them. This brings me to "On The Downlow", a documentary by Abigail Child about (somewhat) masculine, young, black, gay men living life "on the Down Low" (hence the title). The setting is Cleveland, Ohio and we follow the lives of four men of all different types. One man has been "prison trade", one man is a father, one man is bisexual and hiding it from his current girlfriend and another man faced with the pressure of coming out to his father. The degrees of masculinity vary widely in this film but for the most part all of the men don't "look gay" (for lack of a better way of putting it). Admittedly, some of the sections of the film feel staged (ie: the girlfriend finding out her boyfriend is gay in a night club while the camera is conveniently rolling) but it was still an interesting watch nonetheless. See clips of the film, After The Crossover.
 This is one of the main misconceptions that bother me the most...Straight men seem overly paranoid about the idea of another man looking at them lustfully. To make it worse, its usually the most unattractive dude in the entire group making the most noise about it. Just as heterosexual men are NOT physically attracted to ALL women, homosexuals are not attracted to all men. And even if a gay guy was attracted to you, just be flattered and appreciate that at least one person out there thinks you look good. Example: When I'm in a club and a group of unattractive, drunk women catcall at me...I just blush, nod, smile, flirt a little and keep it moving.  This is actually true for SOME gay men, hell this is true for some men in general. But the majority of masculine gay men out there lead pretty mundane, average lives in their free time. We go to sportsbars, play video games, watch movies, etc just like everyone else. The stories of gay men spending all of their spare time looking for sex parties, hookups and male escorts for a "massage" are mostly fiction. Many of the gay men I know who are not in relationships don't have much sex at all actually. Well, no more than the average heterosexual man.  You wouldn't believe how many times I've heard this...mainly from feminine men. They say, "You need to just be yourself." Like being gay means you're incapable of also being masculine. Then there's the straight people that assume you must be "hiding" if you're masculine. To them, being masculine is a constant, exhaustive pretend-act just to hide your homosexuality from them, getting personally betrayed if they find out that you were gay all along. Here's what I say to them: First of all, Masculinity is natural for most of us just as it is for you. Secondly, unless I want to have sex with you, the fact that I'm gay is none of your fucking business. Read more, After The Crossover.
People who know me, may have heard me say… I am a human 1st I am a man 2nd I am a black 3rd I am homosexual 4th My sexuality does not define me exclusively but it is apart of me. At work in the corporate world; I have to be professional and respectful while presenting a helpful and positive image to my clients. I bring this up because of a recent article (Read It Here) I read concerning the repeal of “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell”; the military policy that prohibited homosexuals / bisexuals from serving openly in the military. The article was about an anonymous soldier who was basically stating regardless of the repeal, he was not going to come out of the closet. He spoke of a training session he attended for DADT and some of the hypothetical questions that arose during the Q&A session after the presentation. One question from a soldier stood out to me…
Little did I know, "The Campaign for Black Gay Men’s Lives" has been running an ongoing campaign to fight homophobia and the spread of HIV in the black community since 2007. The ads are a series of billboards in subways, bus shelters (and even the side of entire buildings) that say the words: "I Am Gay" in bold neon colored letters. Explanatory text at the bottom educates people that gays are already a part of their community, families and congregations whether they know it or not. Ads like this are crucial because it goes into what Discreet City preaches and stands for the most. That there are many masculine gay/bisexual men that they know and love in people's lives. These men are sports fans, car lovers, church goers, fathers, sons, nephews, cousins and friends. Recent studies suggest that in the Western World, 2-13% of men are Gay, Bisexual or at least have had one sexual experience with another guy in their lifetime. So whenever I'm in a room with a bunch of other guys I'm always wondering how many of them also are gay/bisexual and masculine...How many other men in my family? Other men I went to college with...Men I work with...Men I see in the gym... See more of the ads, After The Crossover.
I have met many Feminine Bottoms who have said that Tops that have been penetrated even just ONCE in their lives are "disgusting" and NOT actually True Tops.
I wont get into the self-hate brewing in a Bottom that thinks a man getting penetrated is disgusting...but I did think it would be fun to add on to this deluded criteria for what makes a "True Top" in a new satirical series of REAL definitions to Gay terms.
Disclaimer: The following text is satire and is not meant to encourage division, homophobia or even be taken seriously, for that matter.
"TRUE TOP" \tru\ \täp\
1. TRUE TOP is a descriptor given to a Gay man that penetrates the anus and rectum of another man; especially a gay man.
a. The descriptor True Top becomes a misnomer if said man has EVER been topped or penetrated himself with an erect penis, a dildo, a finger or any kind of produce. The mere thought of a True Top being anally skewered is nauseating (See "TOTAL BOTTOM").
b. The TRUE TOP can only be a masculine Gay man. There can not be even a whiff of femininity. Even if said True Top uses the word "whiff" in a sentence of his own, he is NOT a TRUE TOP. Straight men can be True Tops as well just as long as there is a computer or TV playing Heterosexual porn to help him stay at least semi-erect during intercourse (See "GAY FOR PAY").
c. The TRUE TOP must be from a ghetto or an urban community. He must not be able to speak proper, grammatically correct English. (See "THUG").
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